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<rss version="0.92"><channel><title>Pilgrim</title><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/</link><description>This stop---Exeter</description><language>en-EU</language><docs>http://backend.userland.com/rss092</docs><image><title>Pilgrim</title><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/</link><url>http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/87/f337334020625c1b14f53ecf3d543b_160x200.jpg</url></image><item><title>In response to:The truth is.....</title><description>I believe the recipient will answer you outside the blog (when he finds his voice again...).&lt;br&gt;
</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2009/05/04/the-truth-is-6059849/#c9820086</link><pubDate>Tue, 05 May 2009 01:04:43 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Yes! I am angry</title><description>I should also say, I think you were right in your post in that, unlike me, you focused your anger on situations rather than individuals. In general, I too prefer that approach.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2009/03/31/yes-i-am-angry-5868953/#c9544395</link><pubDate>Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:43:02 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Yes! I am angry</title><description>...I'd rather be more careful with my spelling!..&lt;br&gt;
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Anger is understandable in many cases, and, unless you let it out properly, it can be very frustrating, and, in the long run, self-defeating.&lt;br&gt;
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I try to understand in distributing my anger.&lt;br&gt;
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As a rule, I reserve rather more of it for those I consider most responsible for all that. These are the producers of ideas and ideologies that become fashionable because they flatter us, and help us to think that the thing to do is always what is easiest (although sometimes it is).&lt;br&gt;
These authors may pretend to care about justice, but actually there is nothing they care more about than their ego and their wallet.&lt;br&gt;
I am equally angry with their fellow authors who might want to be honest themselves, but tolerate dishonesty. They want to survive, but they could at least try to combine survival with some character...&lt;br&gt;
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Second in my anger come those who simply want personal gain and so encourage and empower the dishonest ideologues. (I know that for others my second would come first...)&lt;br&gt;
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Least angry I am with everybody else. Nowadays, even people who are not particularly inclined to thinking, may have to face questions concerning their lives, and, when they are looking around for help, it may not always be easy to chance on a good tip among the garbage.&lt;br&gt;
And all my sympathy goes to those who want to remain independent and free.&lt;br&gt;
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So much for the moment.&lt;br&gt;
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It was good to hear your thoughts.&lt;br&gt;
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</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2009/03/31/yes-i-am-angry-5868953/#c9537029</link><pubDate>Wed, 01 Apr 2009 06:52:18 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Rationale</title><description>This time I really had nothing to add...</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/12/01/rationale-5144578/#c8426358</link><pubDate>Tue, 02 Dec 2008 01:30:18 +0100</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Rationale</title><description>I agree.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/12/01/rationale-5144578/#c8421899</link><pubDate>Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:46:05 +0100</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:November, 2008</title><description>Interesting change in your logo: from `Around the World' to `Pilgrim', although I liked the previous one too...</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/11/28/november-5125910/#c8398835</link><pubDate>Fri, 28 Nov 2008 16:54:19 +0100</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:November, 2008</title><description>I believe that, through experiences, our soul learns how to respond to anything. That does not mean that we become heartless. &lt;br&gt;
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Anyway, you do not sound like that at all...&lt;br&gt;
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</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/11/28/november-5125910/#c8397226</link><pubDate>Fri, 28 Nov 2008 13:56:44 +0100</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:life is changed for good?</title><description>thank you....it was indeed in 23th of Aug.&lt;br&gt;
had a great and unforgettable 27th birthday. </description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/07/06/life-is-changed-for-good-4412677/#c7585505</link><pubDate>Sun, 24 Aug 2008 16:56:27 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:life is changed for good?</title><description>...but I might be completely wrong and your Birthday is nowhere near. Most websites have some time lag in updating their information.&lt;br&gt;
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Anyway, one's date of birth is a piece of personal information that had rather not be released online these days, even indirectly (although people still do it a lot).&lt;br&gt;
So it might be better if you did not confirm the guess in my last comment.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/07/06/life-is-changed-for-good-4412677/#c7582871</link><pubDate>Sun, 24 Aug 2008 04:30:30 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:life is changed for good?</title><description>The age in your profile just changed (from 26 to 27).&lt;br&gt;
This perhaps means that today or yesterday, you had your Birthday.&lt;br&gt;
If it was yesterday, I hope it was Happy.&lt;br&gt;
If it is today, Happy Birthday!&lt;br&gt;
</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/07/06/life-is-changed-for-good-4412677/#c7580478</link><pubDate>Sat, 23 Aug 2008 17:20:29 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:From her blogs--Love and sex with robots/ by David Levy</title><description>&lt;a href="http://best-online-casinos.mylivepage.com/"&gt; best online casino 44&lt;/a&gt; &lt;a href="http://best-online-casino.mylivepage.com/"&gt;best online casino 55&lt;/a&gt;</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/18/from-her-blogs-love-and-sex-with-robots-4189239/#c7362671</link><pubDate>Thu, 24 Jul 2008 21:08:45 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:life is changed for good?</title><description>That someone you are missing is a very lucky person.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/07/06/life-is-changed-for-good-4412677/#c7221990</link><pubDate>Mon, 07 Jul 2008 07:59:07 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:life is changed for good?</title><description>Wasabi?</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/07/06/life-is-changed-for-good-4412677/#c7221080</link><pubDate>Mon, 07 Jul 2008 00:08:05 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:being intelligent as a gift or a curse</title><description>I don't mean to sound dogmatic, but that's the way I see it.&lt;br&gt;
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The concept I described above is also referred to as `nihilism'.&lt;br&gt;
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Another contemporary meaning of `cynicism' - closer to the original - is that people are motivated purely by self-interest. I don't think that is true either.&lt;br&gt;
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But I can sympathise (up to a point...) with people who are seeking that temporary relief.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/10/being-intelligent-as-a-gift-or-a-curse-4296146/#c7024031</link><pubDate>Thu, 12 Jun 2008 02:34:44 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:being intelligent as a gift or a curse</title><description>There are various ways to understand `cynicism'.&lt;br&gt;
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The way I understand the word, in contemporary talk, it means that everything is pretty much the same, and nothing really matters more than something else, and whether we do this or that, it makes no real difference, despite appearances.&lt;br&gt;
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So understood, cynicism is simply not true. It may provide temporary relief, under some conditions, but, because it is not true, it will eventually let you down.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/10/being-intelligent-as-a-gift-or-a-curse-4296146/#c7023999</link><pubDate>Thu, 12 Jun 2008 02:04:44 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Destiny</title><description>Cheer up, you're beginning to sound like me and that is NOT.A.GOOD.THING!</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/09/destiny-4293101/#c7023935</link><pubDate>Thu, 12 Jun 2008 00:52:41 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:being intelligent as a gift or a curse</title><description>Trust me hon, cynism is the cure! &lt;br&gt;
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BTW, i've moved. Catch up on MSN</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/10/being-intelligent-as-a-gift-or-a-curse-4296146/#c7023924</link><pubDate>Thu, 12 Jun 2008 00:48:51 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:being intelligent as a gift or a curse</title><description>Good to hear you dynamic!&lt;br&gt;
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Is intelligence a gift or a curse? This is an ancient question. Accumulated experience seems to suggest that it is a gift.&lt;br&gt;
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The problem of balancing and combining things becomes unsolvable when people do not understand. It is very different when they do.&lt;br&gt;
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So I agree that reality can be cruel, but I don’t think that it is hopeless. &lt;br&gt;
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I am sure there are people who feel good just by thinking of you.&lt;br&gt;
</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/10/being-intelligent-as-a-gift-or-a-curse-4296146/#c7011534</link><pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 15:53:59 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Destiny</title><description>...and just below your comment the `Scientology' ad. People who pose as a church, but are really dangerous crooks, seeking an opportunity to prey on people in distress. How disturbing!...</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/09/destiny-4293101/#c7008894</link><pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 09:29:08 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Destiny</title><description>I am sorry that you feel that way.&lt;br&gt;
I don’t think you are weak, but all of us – even the strongest ones – feel weak occasionally.&lt;br&gt;
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About “Destiny”, I think that it may exist and still be compatible with “effort”.&lt;br&gt;
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“Destiny” means that SOME things are predetermined. It does not follow that EVERYTHING is predetermined down to the smallest details. For instance, it may be your destiny to find yourself in a particular place, or to meet this or that person, or to have a professional opportunity; but what you will make out of all these things may be up to you. In short, destiny may determine a context at a particular moment, but within that context it may be possible for you to act and achieve things and eventually change the context itself.&lt;br&gt;
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I hope you are not abandoning your degree. Of course, this is for you to decide, but I am afraid it would be a mistake. The problem, if you do this, is not so much the professional possibilities you will lose, as the feelings of failure and guilt (for the lost money and the lost time) that are likely to follow. Such feelings will also tend to make you more submissive, and I think this is the last thing you need in your life.&lt;br&gt;
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Abandoning your degree might be a good idea, if you did not have the potential for that in the first place. But this is not so. In my view, you are very intelligent and, what is more, you use your intelligence to think. Not everybody does this.&lt;br&gt;
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So, if you have not abandoned your degree, then, in my humble opinion, you should not do so. If it is stuck, you can get it unstuck. &lt;br&gt;
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Now, if you have already abandoned your degree, and you cannot resume it (although I think this should be possible so far as the university is concerned) then some feelings of guilt are probably unavoidable. But you should not let these feelings shape your reaction. Your attitude should be driven not by guilt but by responsibility.&lt;br&gt;
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People do not distinguish these two things, but they are rather different. Responsibility is always positive; it helps us to correct our mistakes and to progress. Guilt, by contrast, may push us in the wrong direction. I suspect it does so most of the time. So don’t let it do this to you. Just because you made, perhaps, a mistake, it does NOT necessarily follow that anyone – even people that love you – has a right to demand of you this or that. Don’t let one mistake lead to a second and perhaps bigger one. Also remember: for those that love you, the most important thing is that you should be happy. So by opposing them, you might really be protecting what they care about.&lt;br&gt;
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I have made mistakes too. One of the biggest was to lose faith, at certain moments, that I could change things. I have learned since that effort can change what at some point may look like destiny. I look back to obstacles that once seemed insurmountable and drove me to despair, and I think: How trivial they really were! How unworthy of the time that I lost because of them!&lt;br&gt;
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I said a lot. I didn’t mean to be indiscreet; forgive me if I failed in this.&lt;br&gt;
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To put it in a nutshell: please cheer up! Even if a particular strategy has failed in your life – I do not know this; I am just guessing – you are still so young, and there must be more than one way to fix things! I think you have the strength.&lt;br&gt;
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PS. Bill Gates abandoned his degree at Harvard to found Microsoft. Can you imagine his parents’ reaction at the moment?!!!&lt;br&gt;
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</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/06/09/destiny-4293101/#c7006814</link><pubDate>Mon, 09 Jun 2008 22:41:40 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Awake from slumber</title><description>Another thing.&lt;br&gt;
There are many things you could take from the West, but personally I would not recommend the cynicism and consequent pessimism of some western authors who proclaim `the end of this' and `the end of that' (although I have not read the ones you mentioned in previous posts).&lt;br&gt;
I think that when it comes to human possibilities no one should feel wise enough to state the limits of what people can experience.&lt;br&gt;
I know it may sound commonplace, but I think you should be optimistic...</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/25/awake-from-slumber-4219470/#c6995244</link><pubDate>Sun, 08 Jun 2008 16:30:34 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Awake from slumber</title><description>The question is: Do you really want to do it?&lt;br&gt;
If Yes, then you should do it.&lt;br&gt;
If No, if you are to do it with sadness instead of joy in your heart, then I think you should not do it just because you are expected to do it. You should say: Sorry, No! (or: I need to think about it!)&lt;br&gt;
It's your life after all, and you are still very young...</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/25/awake-from-slumber-4219470/#c6991274</link><pubDate>Sun, 08 Jun 2008 00:30:06 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Awake from slumber</title><description>What happened?&lt;br&gt;
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Nudge me next time you're online. Im on 24/7 - have deadline for 2nd year report end of June. </description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/25/awake-from-slumber-4219470/#c6888342</link><pubDate>Mon, 26 May 2008 01:55:50 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Emotion</title><description>I blame disney!</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/23/emotion-4211343/#c6874163</link><pubDate>Sat, 24 May 2008 02:55:27 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Emotion</title><description>Its every interesting. Maybe a look at the graphic representations in catastrophe theory can provide some useful analogies to contrast with the 'linear ideas' as to why change is not often immediate. </description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/23/emotion-4211343/#c6868417</link><pubDate>Fri, 23 May 2008 11:40:23 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:Pause in act of remembrance for the earthquake victims in China</title><description>I so agree.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/20/pause-in-act-of-remembrance-for-the-eart-4197027/#c6868381</link><pubDate>Fri, 23 May 2008 11:36:41 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:To comment the "Frankenstein Science" /by  HER</title><description>This is definately Frankenstein science. I remember listening to the book on BBC Radio 4 a while back - i was trying to remember the name. No doubt you have it - will get it off you and read when you get back.</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/19/to-comment-the-frankenstein-science-by-h-4193514/#c6835343</link><pubDate>Mon, 19 May 2008 14:06:35 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:From her blogs--Love and sex with robots/ by David Levy</title><description>Hehe, yeah. It's freaky. Have you seen the comment on my blog? This guy thought you were a spam bot :)&lt;br&gt;
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Btw - if this projection is really true, this will be a great time to die. </description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/18/from-her-blogs-love-and-sex-with-robots-4189239/#c6835329</link><pubDate>Mon, 19 May 2008 14:03:22 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:What hits my life?</title><description>Drop out of the PhD program, travel a bit more, marry Mr Rich and live the rest of your life like a princess :)</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/19/what-hits-my-life-4193231/#c6835310</link><pubDate>Mon, 19 May 2008 14:01:28 +0200</pubDate></item><item><title>In response to:My best friend's girl/ by Dorothy Koomson</title><description>but to enter another life, you have to live your current first. Most don't</description><link>http://yushuo.blog.co.uk/2008/05/18/my-best-friend-s-girl-4188697/#c6826355</link><pubDate>Sun, 18 May 2008 12:38:49 +0200</pubDate></item></channel></rss>
